And I didn't even give him a cake! Bad mommy!
You know, this phenomenon happened to my mom. Do I dare say that it happens to other mommies?
When your first child arrives, oh, you just dote on that child, take tons of pictures, keep up even the minor details of your baby's progress in her baby book, and DEFINITELY celebrate that 1st birthday when it rolls around with friends and family all around you. Oh how you love your baby and you let it show!
When the 2nd child arrives, oh you love her, too, but where's the time to take all those photos much less the space? Baby book... oh yeah! Scribble something here and there when you think about it. On her 1st birthday, I did manage to scramble a store bought cake together and a couple of gifts. But I think it might've just been her immediate family (US!) that celebrated with her.
And now my 3rd child...pictures: sure lots of them, usually with his sisters in the picture, too. Baby book: yeah right! Teeth have come in, he's learned to walk, he's eating grown up food, and I haven't written 1/4 of what he's done! And here it is his birthday...my poor poor baby. No cake, no presents, no balloons! Just another day! (sigh!)
It's not fair for the children after that 1st one! (I was a second child - I know!) They're all loved, but there's just no time one-on-one like with that 1st one. I regret that, but someone please tell me that that is just the way of the world. Tell me that this is one of those things that truly does happen to every mommy of more than one or two children. Give me hope that I'm not a neglectful mommy!
Today (well, yesterday) I ordered a very small cake for my little one. After all, he doesn't need a big one. And yes, I could've baked it myself, but WHO'S GOT THE TIME WITH 3 CHILDREN? So I ordered a very inexpensive ('cause that's also part of the phenomenon of growing families - dwindling finances) cake with some little plastic balloons topping it. I also got him a little tractor and trailer toy with a cow to drive around. And that "1st Birthday" birthday card! We'll have a little birthday celebration for him, just the 5 of us, today. We'll be a day late, but I don't think he'll notice. This is, after all, more for us than him at his age, right?
And guess what? My daughter (2nd Child) Jessica's birthday is in two weeks, June 23rd!!!! She'll be 4. Oh where does the time go...
I sure do love you and love watching you grow and learn.
I love to watch you BECOME!
Happy Birthday, Baby!